Why does conflict make us so uncomfortable? Often it’s because I feel that others can’t see just how right I am.
It would be so much easier if they could just recognise my superior arguments, apologise and we could all move forward!
At a conference this week I was challenged by a series of seminars on how to deal with general disagreement, or conflict, as a Christian.
I won’t pretend to be an expert, but I would like to quote a general principle that was shared at the conference: “Conflict is part of your God journey”.
In a conflict situation you don’t have power over what the other parties will do. Yet, we do have power over ourselves and our own reactions.
Conflict is a moment which we can use to bring God glory, yet this seems so unlikely, doesn’t it?
In a conflict we are often so consumed by the other person and what they have done or said. But if instead of starting with the other person we start with God, then we can reframe the whole situation.
And we start with the understanding that we are in the position that God has put us in.
Instead of blaming God, we can ask how in this situation we can seek to glorify him.
I don’t think that this means the next steps are easy or obvious.
It doesn’t even mean that conflict can be solved: you are only one part of the equation. But you can change the equation: you can make the impossible a possibility.
By starting with God, not only can you grow in your relationship with him, you can ask how he wants you to bring love to others.
This weekend we continue our series ‘The Heart of Truth’ as Simon Chaplin preaches on the topic ‘By faith alone’ from Romans chapter 3 verse 27 to chapter 4 verse 25.
It’s the right time for us to recognise many of the needs of our missionaries, so at both our services, we will have a special update about KBECET (Kiama Board for Employing Christian Education Teachers) which is our Mission of the Month.
Our 8am Sunday service will be a Morning Prayer AAPB service.
If you’re wanting to check out our church we’d really love you to visit us on Saturday at 5pm for a contemporary service with kids’ program and dinner afterwards. Our youth group ‘Alive’ runs straight after dinner on Saturday night. Or come along on Sunday at 8am for a Prayer Book service.
If you can’t make it in person, you’re welcome to jump online to watch the service (with the same sermon and many other items) at www.oakflats.tv.
See you at 5pm this Saturday or 8am this Sunday, God willing!